The Perfectly Imperfect Journey

Happy Valentines Day

Every February, around this time, approximately 8 billion small heart-shaped candies are created and exchanged.  These candies bear messages of love and care, and are often used as gifts to express feelings for another person.  

In each episode featuring a guest, we ask them if there are any words of wisdom they might share with their younger selves. These words of wisdom are like those Sweetheart treats, but instead of representing love for someone else, they are messages of love directed to our guests themselves, and by extension, to all of us.  We are so inspired by the wisdom our guests shared, so we put all these beautiful words together, as a little love treat for our listeners. 

Enjoy!

 

Thank you to our amazing guests for their words of wisdom: Donna Peek, Darren Gold, Leslie McGuirk, Mike Robbins, Susan Olesek, Laila Tarraf, Nichelle Trambell Spellman, Rachel Bitecofer, Bridgette Corridan, Mary Lin McBride, Ali Ingersoll, Cara Jones, David Richman, Chris Pierce, Chris Tsakalakis, Jill Santa Lucia, Forrest Wright, Aisha Ponds, Donna Rhode, Kristin Firpo, Marney Sullivan, Deborah Egerton, Rebekah Rotstein, Daryan Rahimzadeh, Kat Gordon, Kat Williford, Jeff Slater, Bryan Gillette, Oneika Mays, Vanessa Loder, Kerri Kelly, Seane Corn, Sarah McDonald, Mary Felice, Shelly Tygielski, Joe Walsh, Rebecca Ward, Nicole Swiner, Natalie Grumet, Marti Grimminck, Ava Lashay, Maureen Aarons, Josh Izenberg, Trish Hegarty, Kim Hunter, Ashleigh Parker, Chris Hendricks, Danny Rosin, Michelle Simmons, Katherine Kennedy, Tony Lillios

Hit ‘Em Where It Hurts with Rachel Bitecofer

Please note that there’s some pretty salty language in this episode.

 

Our conversation with political scientist Rachel Bitecofer was originally released on 8/31/22. Rachel has been a strong voice on saving our democracy and her new book, “Hit ‘Em Where It Hurts: How to Save Democracy by Beating Republicans at Their Own Game," was released in Feb 2023. Given how important her message is, we decided to re-release her episode. 

 

This was a milestone episode for us. Sherry has admired Rachel Bitecofer’s work from behind her Twitter screen for years.  When she used that same screen to ask Rachel to join us on the podcast, we were both thrilled she said yes.  

 

We are even more thrilled with the conversation we got to have with Rachel. Like most of us, she’s had a bumpy road to get to where she is today: a well respected political scientist, polling expert, and commentator who has appeared in the NY Times Opinion pages, on The Daily Show, and in many other publications. But it took her a while to figure it out. After following the Grateful Dead around for a while, she did find out what her “thing” was and enrolled in a junior college. And how did she figure it out?  She paid attention to what was fun. Lucky for us, politics was fun for her, and the rest of us are better because of it. Please listen in to Rachel’s perfectly imperfect journey, not to mention her uproariously funny sense of humor.  

 

As long as I get to experience life, I’m pretty happy.  ~ Rachel Bitecofer

 

Bio

Rachel Bitecofer. Ph.D. is a political scientist and election forecaster turned political strategist. Her interviews and analysis have been featured by The New York Times, The Washington Post, Salon, Politico, The New Republic, Real Time with Bill Maher, CNN, MSNBC and many other prominent news sources.

Rachel was recognized for her novel theory that predicted the size of the “Blue Wave” in the 2018 midterm elections much earlier than other forecasters. She then used her methodology to anticipate that Democrats would recapture the presidency in 2020, more than a year out from the election.

Known as The Election Whisperer, Rachel “The Doc” Bitecofer offers hold-no-punches political commentary and has become a sought-after political strategist. She earned a Ph.D. in political science and international affairs from the University of Georgia.

The Road is All with Josh Gerben

So much of what we focus on in the podcast is about people’s lives and their journeys. Yet, so much of life is focused on the destination.  When Josh Gerben was growing up, he was always more interested in where he was going, instead of where he was at that moment. Josh had a happy childhood, he has built a successful career as an attorney and is a very proud dad and husband. However, it’s only recently that he has come to realize the wisdom of a sign that used to hang in his Dad’s shop; The End is Nothing, the Road is All.  Listen in to Josh’s perfectly imperfect journey and the ways in which he is now bringing more focus to being in the moment.  

 

Bio
Josh Gerben is a trademark attorney and founder of intellectual property law firm Gerben IP. Raised in a family of entrepreneurs, Josh opened Gerben IP in 2008 to test his own entrepreneurial skills.

Since the firm’s opening in 2008, Josh has overseen the registration of over 7,500 trademarks for clients in the United States and around the world.

With 15+ years of experience, Josh is a nationally recognized, sought-after thought leader in the trademark space, regularly appearing in publications such as CNN, Wall Street Journal, ESPN, NPR, New York Times and the Washington Post. Josh also regularly appears on CNBC to discuss news in the trademark world.

Josh also launched his own podcast in 2019, titled “The Josh Gerben Show.” Across the span of 29 episodes, Josh gives a wide variety of tips and advice for small business owners and law firms. Topics covered include, but are not limited to, how to create an effective website, developing a personal brand, digital marketing strategies, and time management.

Links
Podcast:  https://joshgerben.com/podcast/
Website:  https://www.gerbenlaw.com
LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuagerben/

Speaking to What Matters with Katherine Kennedy

We all have a story. But often our stories live just in our minds or hearts, never making it out into the world. Sometimes we hold back because we don’t believe we have anything interesting or important to say, and other times it’s because we simply don’t know how to put it into words.  Katherine Kennedy spent much of her early career helping others tell their story but kept her own truth bottled up inside.  She helped launch young people into academic success and she coached professionals to unearth their authentic truths. But for years she held back from having the difficult conversations in her own life to help make sense of her own story until that finally became untenable. Listen in to hear Katherine’s Perfectly Imperfect journey and her advice on how to access your own story.  

 

Bio

Katherine Kennedy has almost 30 years of experience helping people tell their stories. After two decades of building Summer Search into a national nonprofit and mentoring hundreds of youth, she launched her own coaching business in 2015 focused on helping people speak with more authenticity and confidence. She has coached clients on TED talks, toasts, presentations, interviews and the soul-affirming exploration of telling your story. She has a gift for helping you communicate in a way that lands right in the audience’s heart. This is what she does for others and this is what she did with her book Speaking to What Matters: My story of learning how to share what’s inside.

 

Katherine is a mom, wife, daughter, sister and friend. She is grateful to have found her purpose but knows that it is her relationships with the people in her life that make life meaningful and worthwhile. To her, this is what matters most.

 

https://katherinekennedysf.com/

Happiness

Even under the best of circumstances, happiness can be an elusive thing.  And, right now the world does not feel to be in the best of circumstances and it is easy to perceive it as a dark place. When the clock ticked over to 2024, none of our problems magically disappeared, leaving many of us wondering if it’s even okay to feel happiness right now with so much happening around us and the broader world. And yet, when we look into the deeper meaning, we believe it is exactly those moments when things feel the most difficult, that we want to move toward happiness.  With all due respect to Walt Disney, there is no magical kingdom of happiness, but just like a fitness routine, we believe with a little patience and practice, you can build an increasingly  stronger happiness muscle and bring more joy into your life. 

Happy New Year, everyone…emphasis on the happy!

 

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/04/01/world/europe/finland-happiness-optimism.html

 

https://www.newyorker.com/culture/culture-desk/the-year-of-hygge-the-danish-obsession-with-getting-cozy

Possibilities and Edges with Tony Lillios

If you believed anything was possible, what would you do? 

Tony Lillios comes from an immigrant family that somehow made things happen…whole family pitching in to start a small business on a greek island?  No problem.  Squishing 10 family members into a station wagon, along with bikes and all the necessities for a week at the beach?  A little duct tape and rope, and they were off for their holiday adventure.  As an adult, this translated into Tony’s work and personal worlds, starting several businesses, completing 12+ IronMans, and and recently climbing in Bhutan with a world famous entrepreneur. However, even for someone who sees limitless possibilities, there are moments when Tony finds himself conforming and feeling smaller than he truly is. It is a growth edge for him, and there are valuable lessons for all of us to learn from his experiences.  Listen in to hear Tony’s perfectly imperfect journey.  

 

Bio

Tony Lillios is a serial entrepreneur, Integral Coach, TEDx speaker, film producer, and triathlete that has also co-founded Speck Design and Speck Products. Chances are, if you owned a phone between 2008 and 2014, you owned a Speck Products case. Tony and his partners sold the company to Samsonite in 2014 for a reported 85 million dollars and that's when he turned his attention to personal and professional coaching. Today, Tony coaches others by developing an ongoing set of practices that allow them to develop new skills, capacities, and awareness. This system of integral coaching puts you on your path to sustainable transformation. Tony’s unique integral approach comes from a blend of his training through New Ventures West, Stagen's Integral Leadership Program, and self-discovery.

Write It Down with Michelle Simmons

From the outside looking in, it would be easy to assume Michelle Simmons is invincible.  She is an 18-time IronMan athlete (including 4 times at the world championships), has run countless half triathlons and has coached other athletes to triathlon successes.  Even when cancer struck at age 25, Michelle never skipped a beat, keeping a super positive attitude and staying focused on getting past her treatment and back to competing.  But during her cancer treatment, there was a seed planted that would fester and then rear its head 20 years later.  Almost to the day of her original diagnosis, Michelle was sure there was something seriously wrong.  

There was something wrong, just not what she thought.  And no amount of athleticism or positive attitude could help.  Her ultimate savior?  Writing down her story.  Listen in to hear Michelle’s perfectly imperfect journey. 

Bio

Michelle Simmons is an esteemed endurance coach, athlete, and inspirational mentor with over 15 years of experience in triathlon coaching. As the founder of TeamBSC Triathlon in Hawaii, she has dedicated her career to helping athletes achieve their full potential by fostering a blend of physical preparedness and mental resilience.

A graduate of Arizona State University, Michelle's academic background laid a solid foundation for her initial career as a classroom teacher. Her five-year tenure in education honed her skills in communication, leadership, and motivation—skills that would prove invaluable as she transitioned to full-time coaching.

Michelle's expertise is not just theoretical. Her credentials include competing in 18 Ironman races, with four appearances at the Ironman World Championships in Kona. However, her personal athletic achievements are just part of her story. After overcoming a cancer diagnosis at the age of 25, Michelle faced a prolonged battle with anxiety and health issues stemming from the fear of recurrence. This challenge propelled her into Story Work, leading her to become a Level 2 Enlifted Coach and Level 2 O23 Coach. She empowers athletes and individuals alike to rewrite their internal narratives, acknowledging the profound impact of thoughts and beliefs on physical health and performance.

In addition to her coaching business, Michelle's commitment to her community shines through her volunteer work, contributions to the Aloha State Bicycle Racing Association, and her initiative to lead a monthly women's bike ride, creating a space for camaraderie and empowerment.

At home, Michelle's role as a wife and mother to a dynamic 15-year-old daughter is a source of personal joy and grounding. Her balanced approach to life, emphasis on happiness in athleticism, and passion for teaching others to thrive mentally, physically, and emotionally, make her an extraordinary figure in the world of endurance sports coaching.

Michelle Simmons' life and work are a testament to the power of determination, the importance of mindset, and the transformative impact of supportive coaching. Her story and expertise are sure to inspire not only her clients but also all those who have the pleasure of listening to her speak.

Michellesimmonscoaching.com 

Buy The Ticket, Take The Ride with Danny Rosin

As a youngster, Danny Rosin received the dubious distinction of having the most demerits in the history of his school. Some might think that would have led to a somewhat bumpy life, but instead it laid the groundwork for Danny’s lifelong commitment to giving back to community.  Buy the Ticket, Take the Ride is not only a drink at one of Danny’s favorite local bars, but it also describes his philosophy in life.  Whether diving into a mosh pit or out of an airplane, Danny is the type of person who lives life to the fullest.  This does not mean it has all been smooth sailing for him; listen in as Danny describes his perfectly imperfect journey and how sometimes a little mischief can lead to a lot of happiness.  

Bio:
Danny Rosin is co-owner of Brand Fuel, a branded merchandising agency that is a certified B Corp. He is also the co-founder of Band Together, a nonprofit that has donated $12 million to the nonprofit community through live music experiences. He serves on the board of A Place at The Table, a “pay what you can” café and is advisor to Gabi’s Pals, a nonprofit that empowers people with special abilities through fulfillment programming. He is also the proud co-founder of social impact orgs like PromoKitchen, PromoCares, Reciprocity Road and Operation Smile International’s Student Programs. Rosin is a tireless community builder who likes to start organizations that do work that matters. He is married with two teenage daughters and has come to grips with the idea that well-behaved women rarely make history.

www.linkedin.com/in/dannyrosin

https://twitter.com/DannyRosin

When Things Get Hard

It is an unfortunate fact of life: none of us will escape unscathed and all of us will encounter some difficulties throughout our life.  It is part of the premise of The Perfectly Imperfect Journey - we will all have hardships, and tragedy and just plain ol’ crappy days when nothing seems to go our way.  In this episode, we talk about our own experience of difficulties in our lives and what we have learned.  Listen in to hear some suggestions for when things get hard.  

 

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated.  In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” ~ Maya Angelou

Life is What You Make It with Chris Hendricks

There are all kinds of reasons Chris Hendricks could have a poor outlook: he was diagnosed with cerebral palsy at age 4 and his doctor told him he would have a hard time in life; he was in and out of a wheelchair in middle and high school and suffered the particular brand of cruelty practiced by teenagers; at one point, he lost his grandmother, his girlfriend and his band all at the same time. Life has not been easy for Chris. However, Chris chooses to look for magical moments instead of miserable ones. He uses music when he needs inspiration and lives by the philosophy that believing is seeing instead of the opposite. Please listen in to hear some of Chris’ story, and his amazing music that are part of his perfectly imperfect journey.  

 

Bio 

Chris Hendricks’ music is a blend of pop and RnB with sprinkles of influence from James Taylor to Eminmen. Chris began singing at the age of four for friends and family and hasn’t stopped since. He’s been a songwriter, poet, lyricist and guitarist for over 15 years. His debut album Noise (2010) sold over 10,000 units. He’s performed across the United States, Canada and in Europe. 

His music has been used by the National Hockey League, the National Football League, and Major League Soccer. He’s written music for film (Hunny Bunny in 2020, Carol of the Bells in 2021, OCD in 2021) and television (Radical Dating in 2017). His single “Noise” was the theme song for the NHL’s Carolina Hurricanes and Florida Panthers for the 2012 and 2013 season. His song “Anthem” was used as the signature “goal scoring song” for both NHL teams as well. His most recent releases “Soul on Fire” and “Stars” (2022) have been used as pump up music for the Sandiego Chargers. 

Chris has toured with, and opened for grammy award winners Amy Grant and Mercy Me as well as the grammy nominated group Delta Rae. Chris has shared the stage with well known artists such as Daughtry, Parachute, Tyler Bryant, Andy McKee, Geri Jewell, Kathy Buckley, Donnie/Andy Demmers, and Jim Parsons. Chris has performed the National Anthem for the Carolina Hurricanes and Durham Bulls. Chris has performed in Prague, Bulgaria, the United Kingdom and the Caribbean. Chris has performed at notable venues across the U.S. including the Alex Theater (LA), Bluebird Cafe (Nashville), The Listening Lounge (NYC), Eddie’s Attic (ATL), The Carolina Theater (Durham, NC), The Evening Muse (Charlotte, NC), Lincoln Theater (Raleigh, NC) and Disney World. Chris has performed at many colleges and universities including Elon University, East Carolina University, University of Pittsburgh, UNC Chapel Hill, UNC Wilmington, UNC Greensboro, Duke University, and Peace University. Currently he lives in Chapel Hill NC with his partner Heather and daughter Fern.

Website: http://www.iamchrishendricks.com/

Latest Album: https://music.apple.com/us/album/stars-single/1655076559